Author Archives: Adia Kamaria

If you’re single, in your late twenties or early thirties, have a decent  job and you carry yourself well, you probably get asked why you’re not  married or in a serious relationship all the time. If you’re anything like me you hate that question and the “something must be wrong with you” look that usually comes after it.Continue reading “Hard Knock Wife”

Most people, especially men, would agree that a good friendship is the basis for a lasting relationship. Ask any man that’s been happily married for more than five years what it is that keeps his marriage alive and you will get the same answer, “She’s my best friend.” So if all it takes is aContinue reading “Like on Top”

By the time I got home from class last night I wasn’t able to watch all of President Obama’s State of the Union address. I did catch a lot of clips  and I saw the many posts on Facebook and Twitter. People tweeted and re-tweeted that BET should have aired the State of the UnionContinue reading “The State of our Union”

Since the start of 2012, literally beginning on January 1, 2012, my ears listened to more stories about marriage than usual.  I spent much of the first day of this year listening to a friend’s reasons for not getting back with his ex-fiancé even though he is still more than madly in love with her.Continue reading “The Title”

Drake probably said it best on “Doing it Wrong” when he said “We live in a generation of, not being in love, and not being together, but we sure make it feel like we’re together…” My generation, the so-called Them-Geners (people who were born in the 80s and grew up in the 90s) by author TimContinue reading “The Gray Area”

It’s been said that Armani dresses the wife and Versace dresses the girlfriend (mistress if you don’t mind). To say that Armani dresses the wife is to say that she is conservative, demure, classy, and even exclusive and that the girlfriend, dressed by Versace is flirty, fun, sexy and most definitely not wife material, theContinue reading “What is Wife Material?”

Hoes, gold-diggers—“Some women would rather be a rich man’s slut than a poor man’s queen”– “She only mess with dudes that got money”– either way you put it, this describes a woman that lacks depth and is only concerned with material things and outward appearances, someone that is shallow. In my years of dating I’veContinue reading “(Some) Men are Shallow Too”

I hate talking about race, really I do. I’d like to believe that we are all part of one race, the human race and that color doesn’t matter so I try to stay away from racially charged topics or discussions. However, there is one topic that I can’t help having a very strong opinion onContinue reading “Black Man, What is Wrong With You?”

Okay, so all the pink everywhere won’t let us forget that it’s still October, which means that it’s still Breast Cancer Awareness month (I mean that in a good way). At the beginning of the month I ended up being the listening ear for a friend who was dreading having her first mammogram. Then, aContinue reading “Seven with a Survivor”

I know better I coulda told you none of this was true Coulda told you there would never be an us There would only be a me and a you That’s what I get for believing in love   I know better I coulda told you how this would end Coulda told you we wouldContinue reading “Believing in Love”