Confidence is supposedly the best thing a woman can wear―I disagree, somewhat. Yes, confidence is sexy but a smile is pretty. A sincere smile on a woman’s face is unquestionably feminine and gracious. I know we can’t walk around with a big grin on our faces all the time for no reason, that’s silly, but when you’re in a happy state of mind you smile at just about everything without even realizing it. When you smile your eyes are brighter and your presence is pleasant. Audrey Hepburn was right, happy girls are the prettiest girls.
As a former ABW, I notice the difference that being happy makes in the way that men treat me too. I get a lot more compliments from men now than I used to. I mean real compliments, not game. On a daily basis men say to me something along the lines of, “You’re beautiful” or “Have a nice day, pretty”. They help me with bags and offer to pay for my groceries and sometimes do pay for things without me knowing―and that’s it! They do or say something nice and walk away. They don’t stand around asking for my number or give me lame reasons why I should get to know them. (Of course this could also be because my skirts are much longer and my nails are much shorter now too)
This past Monday morning I was in a Publix supermarket and as I walked past a stranger he said, “You look very nice today, and have a nice day too.” I asked him why he said that to me and he said, “Because you smiled when I passed you.” I took that to mean that my smile made me look nice, approachable and like someone that he genuinely thought should have a nice day.
We’re only human, we can’t be happy every day and I don’t believe there is a magical way to control all of your thoughts so that unhappy ones don’t ever enter your mind. If you’re like me you’re the type of person that gets upset by other people, not things. Something like spilling sauce on my shirt at lunch won’t change my mood for the entire day but someone I love doing something I hate will. The key is to stay the same no matter what someone else does. I have to remind myself daily that my mood and my happiness are MINE and not to be given away. Have I mastered this? No, but I’m learning more and more that smiles are curves that set a lot of things straight.